Don’t Call Me A Cosplayer : Why I’m Finished in 1,000 Words or Less

This might sound weird, but from now on, if you see me at a convention, don’t call me a cosplayer.

I know, I’ve built up my following through cosplay, I’ve been doing it since 2007. Recently I posted on my Facebook page that I’ve made the decision to stop cosplaying and focus more on my media persona. This is a decision, sadly, that I’ve come to after months of struggling with the shift of the convention community as a whole. I haven’t even been involved with the convention scene for that long, it was only about 2-3 years ago that I began doing panels, having tables at these events, and was invited as a guest to my first convention.

Don’t get me wrong, guys, I am MORE than grateful for every opportunity I’ve been given. Good OR bad, they’ve been learning experiences, and have helped me make other connections I never would have made otherwise. Like, what other time can you gain access to parties where you’ll drink with Playmates and 80’s action stars? Not many people can say they’ve done that. But, I digress. For as many great times as I’ve had in the convention community, I’ve had some horrible experiences that have turned me off to it as a whole. Mainly, within the cosplay community. I’ve been dealing with harassment, whether it be about my size, look, or a difference of opinion, since the beginning of my cosplay adventure. It’s only gotten worse the more I’ve gotten involved in this scene.

Recently I worked at a convention where I dealt with some Regina George type bullshit. From MANY different people. Purposefully left out of promotion leading up to the convention, petty war being waged via vague book statuses (which I know we’re ALL guilty of from time to time. We’re irrational people with access to the Internet, it happens.) and at the actual event, I had a literal Mean Girls moment. I won’t get into it, but it was a conversation where I actually had to stop myself more than once and think, “Wait, what?” I’ll just say it was very reminiscent of the scene where Regina and Cady are talking at the lunch table, and she says she’s really pretty. And when Cady accepts the compliment, Regina replies with, “So you agree? You think you’re really pretty?” These are the type of backhanded compliments and cleverly disguised disses that you’ll replay in your head long after the conversation is done, that will literally bring heat to your cheeks immediately in embarrassment.

I don’t know what it is about the cosplay community that’s changed since I started out, or maybe I’m the one that changed? I don’t know the answer. But all I can do is go back to the source…and go back to why I’ve done this in the first place. It was for fun. I didn’t care about appearances. I’ve never wanted to be a professional cosplayer. I have always just wanted an outlet for my creativity. To be an advocate for the less confident, girls or guys who are feeling currently the way I once did; ashamed of their bodies. I just wanted to make a difference. But I’m done giving back to a community that wants absolutely NO help.

A year or so ago I read an article by Yaya Han, where she said the cosplay community has gone way downhill since she began cosplaying. I can’t disagree with this. I remember at my first NYCC. I was wearing a casual cosplay and I was complimented and had my photos taken. Now, people won’t look at you as a “real cosplayer” unless you’re in 30 pounds of body armor or something. It used to be  a hobby where everyone was really accepting. Now, it’s all a competition. Dog eat dog. Regina George attacks on the daily. Not fun anymore.

So, guys. I’m seriously done this time. You may see me in cosplay, but don’t call me a cosplayer. I’m a person in a costume. Playing dress up. I refuse to fall into a category where lately, I receive nothing but criticism, bullying and grief. I’m in the process of selling off costumes I don’t use for charity events. I don’t know if people all over the place deal with this type of BS on the regular, or if it’s specific to this area. I can’t tell because my following has grown a lot in the past two years, which could play a role in this. NYC is much more divided. There’s NYC cosplay events, but it’s almost too large to be caught up in drama, unless you’re specifically looking for it. All of my problems started when I moved upstate and began attending these events. Is it because it’s smaller, and people are bored? Or is it because I’m more involved in the community than some other people? I really don’t know. I just don’t want to play this game anymore.

Part of me wonders if it’s the rise of the competitive cosplay world. Cosplay contests seem to cause a lot of the problems. I personally have been in contact with a few convention promoters, and we’re talking about the negativity that surrounds the contest. While I understand that it’s a great way to bring cosplayers out to events…I wonder if doing away with them would keep some of the negative few away? Maybe if smaller shows do away with the contests, anyway. Smaller shows don’t NEED them. Larger shows, I totally understand. But for people who are into the competition circuit, I’m pretty sure that your local collectible show’s 1st Place doesn’t matter much to people running, let’s say, The World Cosplay Summit, anyway.

Don’t try and convince me NOT to quit this hobby. I’ve tried sticking it out. I can’t deal with it anymore. I don’t have to do anything that doesn’t make me happy or affects me in a negative manner. My own mental health is more important to me than being “cos-famous.”

 

Convention Announcements for 2016 & What I Learned in 2015

I’m really excited to share with you all my list of conventions and guest appearances for this year. I really am blessed in the fact that many of these cons are farther away than I normally venture, which means new opportunities to foster new connections and relationships, both business and personal.

I won’t lie, but 2015 was a hard year for me, mentally, emotionally, physically, it took a toll on me. Many people I trusted and loved in this community let me down, they cast me aside, used me and tried to make me shut down. I was devastated with the way I was treated by some people I really thought were my closest friends, and I went through a month or so wondering who exactly I could trust. Nobody tells you how difficult it can be to be in the public eye sometimes. I don’t mean to make myself sound more important than I am, really, that’s not what I’m saying here. I try and see the best in people and I will literally stand by them till the bitter end. But once I’m disrespected– that all can change. In a way, everything worked out for the best. I’m much happier now and I’m glad I have these opportunities to step away from the toxicity of some of the people in my local area and start a bit fresh. A few friends that I actually feel that I can trust and I are working to make this community better; so we’ve formed a legion called CosUNITY, where we will be promoting positivity and working towards a better experience for all.

So here I am, pushing onward, for some odd and strange reason. I don’t know how I do it sometimes. I know for a fact I wouldn’t be able to do it without many of your support. So, from the bottom of my heart, thank you all.

I can’t wait for all of these events and I’m hoping to meet a ton of you at them. 🙂.

Hang With Your Friendly Neighborhood Undiesofwondy @ FCBD!

Undiesofwondy will be at Zombie Planet in Albany, NY THIS SATURDAY — MAY 2ND, 2015 — for Free Comic Book Day!

Make sure to stop and say hi, I will have a few goodies and will be hosting a podcast on behalf of my friends at The Brotherhood Of Evil Geeks. Joining me will be the ever talented and beautiful Zan dressed in her Arkham Knight Harley Quinn outfit. I will be in disguise as my true spirit animal, Dr. Pamela Isley aka Poison Ivy! There will be prizes, trivia, and awesome people for you to nerd out with. Don’t miss it!

Zombie Planet can be found HERE on Facebook and on their WEBSITE here.

 

 

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Update: Announcements for 11/2014

Hi all!

It’s been a while since I updated the site but am going to be updating this more regularly since I have revamped it a bit. Thanks to Ike N. Adibe, my personal tech guru and life savior for helping me fix this baby up!

You’re probably wondering (or not) what I’ve been up to for the past few months. It’s been an insane year for me! In 2014 alone, I managed to move out of my childhood home and make it on my own (with a lot of help from my lovely boyfriend C-Mart of EvilGeeks.com fame), make about 14 new cosplays (no, that’s not a lie, as much as my wallet wants it to be) and have reached over 3,000 followers on my Facebook page.

In addition to all of that, I’ve been writing for EvilGeeks.com and have a bunch more projects and announcements to make in the coming days, so make sure to stay tuned for them and for all new blog posts from Undiesofwondy! <3

Thank you for the continued support!.

Hello, 2014!

Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays and a Happy New Year!
Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays and a Happy New Year!

Hello, all! I hope you had a wonderful holiday and a VERY Happy New Year! 2014 is a year I hope to be filled with the greatest of things. As you probably have noticed, there has been, up until now, a lack of posts and such on this page. But now that my schedule has cleared itself up (finishing college and life is not as crazy, etc.) I will be regularly updating this site.

Just to fill you all in–I have been posting regularly on my Facebook page, linked both here and above on the menu bar, with cosplay progress and other life updates. I am happy and proud to say that I have now surpassed 600 likes there, which is something I never imagined when starting my cosplays! I also post regularly on my Twitter page, where you can see my daily snark and sass.

2013 was a crazy year, but I have also received many opportunities that will carry over into 2014. I am now the co-host of Media Junk Food’s ‘JunkFood Podcast’, along with my good friend, Phoenix, who you may know as @Da_Nerdette over on Twitter! The episodes will be posted here on this page so you can all keep up with my zany antics on the podcasting side of things.

I am also now the head of the Costumers With A Cause NYC branch, where I will be organizing and rounding up NYC cosplayers to attend and assist in charity events locally. I have always wanted to give back through costuming and am so happy to be given an opportunity to do so!

As for this site–I will be attending more events and conventions this year, and will be covering them extensively here. I will also be posting more photos, vlogs and blogs here as well, and once again, will be back to posting here regularly. Thank you for all the support and I hope 2014 is wonderful for you all!

 

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I Was in a New York Comic Con Music Video!

Screenshot from the 'Lose Yourself to Dance' music video!
Screenshot from the ‘Lose Yourself to Dance’ music video!

So, this year at NYCC, ReedPOP sent out a call for cosplayers willing to participate in a music video. I signed up, got picked, and behold, a video was made. I’m dressed as Lady Joker! Thanks to ReedPOP people for an amazing opportunity, and to all my new friends I made while participating in this video, it was such a pleasure to meet you all!

 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OORzFnS0rpw.